Book Review: Losing Him, Gaining You + Giveaway, Review, Excerpt

August 26, 2014

in Books

Losing Him, Gaining You: Divorce as Opportunity

Losing Him, Gaining You is a refreshingly honest and uplifting guide through divorce. Based on research and her own experience, Corbin Lewars coaches her readers through tough territory with a direct, straightforward step by step approach to divorce. With inspiration and a large dose of humor, Corbin offers a way forward that will help others trust themselves and make wise choices for their new life.

Lewars offers a lot of sound advice. Some of it is common sense. At least I would hope it is common sense! But then she suggests things that you think you know, but you probably don’t, such as don’t try to be friends with your ex right away. Don’t make your kids a go between for messages. But mostly, she lets you know that you are not alone and there is life after divorce. The book reads like a conversation and advice from a good friend.

Author Bio:

corbin lewarsCorbin Lewars is the author of Creating a Life: The memoir of a writer and mom in the making, which was nominated for the 2011 PNBA and Washington State book awards. Her essays have been featured in over twenty- five publications as well as in several writing and parenting anthologies. For the past fifteen years she has worked with other writers as a developmental editor, coach and writing instructor. She lives in Seattle, WA with her two children and very large cat.

Social Media Links:
Twitter: @CorbinSeattle


Find the Book:
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From Chapter 11: Your Body
Be Kind When Looking at Yourself

The first thing to remember when reacquainting yourself with your long-lost friend—which is you in the flesh—is that she’s aged. Do not expect her to look twenty when she’s forty. Be kind to her. Remember all that she has done for you. Perhaps she carried and birthed a few babies for you. Maybe she’s climbed mountains, pedaled bikes, or stayed in downward dog for way longer than she wanted to. Even if she hasn’t done any of these things in a long time—or ever—she has carried groceries for you, walked miles (even if it was just from the car to the office door) and cleaned your bathroom for you. And for that, she deserves credit and respect.

Another good thing to remember is that every woman (at least that I know) is dissatisfied with at least one aspect of her body. One woman thinks her nose is too big, another that her breasts are too small, another her butt is too wide, or hair is too curly. Perhaps it’s not a specific area you are disgruntled with, but more of an overall desire to be more firm, smooth, thin, or voluptuous. No one is perfect, because we aren’t supposed to be. That goes for our emotional state as well as our physical appearance.

Sheila Ellison in her book, The Courage to Love Again, claims, “Once we think about ourselves as sensual, creative, and powerful women, the next step is to begin to honor our bodies.” She suggests creating a new set of personal beliefs as a way to honor ourselves. One of her personal beliefs is, “Every part of my body is beautiful and clean. I will not be ashamed, and I will make no excuses for imperfections.”

If creating a new set of personal beliefs about yourself and your body doesn’t appeal to you, that’s fine. But I invite you to try, even if it is just for thirty seconds, to focus on an area of your body that you do like. Maybe it’s your hair, or your legs, or your smile, or your elbow. I don’t care what it is or if it’s even visible for most people, I just want you to appreciate at least one area of your body. Good, that’s progress. We’ll work on the least favorite areas later.
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Lindsey Renuard is a blogger, YouTube beauty expert, and the Managing Editor of the Skiatook Journal.

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Samantha August 26, 2014 at 9:19 am

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