Favorite Poems

by Lindsey on April 12, 2012

in Poetry

Here is another of my favorite poems for National Poetry Month.

She Was Waiting to Be Told
Deborah Garrison

For you she learned to wear a short black slip
and red lipstick,
how to order a glass of red wine
and finish it.  She learned to reach out
as if to touch your arm and then not
touch it, changing the subject.
Didn’t you think, she’d begin, or
Weren’t you sorry

To call your best friends
by their schoolboy names
and give them kisses goodbye,
to turn her head away when they say
Your wife!  So your confidence grows.
She doesn’t ask you what you want
because she knows.
Isn’t that what you think?

When actually she was only waiting
to be told Take off your dress
to be stunned, and then do this,
never rehearsed, but perfectly obvious:
in one motion, up. over, and gone,
the X of her arms crossing and uncrossing,
her face flashing away from you in the fabric
so that you couldn’t say if she was
appearing or disappearing.

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Book Review: The Soldier’s Wife

by Lindsey on April 9, 2012

in Book Reviews

I read The Soldier's Wife for the Great Thought Book Club. Join us for the discussion on Tiwtter!

When: Thursday, April 26h, 8-9 PM CST, Hashtag #Gr8books

The Soldier's Wife is easily one of my favorite books I've read in a while. It is an easy read but will get you intensely involved.

Set in WWII on the British Channel Islands, the story follows Vivienne and her family, her two daughter and mother-in-law, as they deal with German occupation on their island. What I love about this historical romance is that the war is ever present, but also is, for the most part happening somewhere else. You can truly believe the love between Vivienne and Gunther, a German soldier, is real and true.

The other thing that strikes me about this novel is what is there – Vivienne's husband, food, money, safety. It makes the occupation of the island also seem as real as the love story.

I highly recommend this novel for the lyric prose, the depth of character, and the swept away love. Its a perfect spring/summer sitting under a tree/by the pool/at the beach read.

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20 Lessons I’ve Learned in my 35 Years

by Lindsey on April 7, 2012

in Just Sayin'

Today I turn 35. I have earned every single one of those years so I'm claiming all of them.  I hope I've learned some valuable lessons along the way.

1. Don't give up on your dreams

It is good to dream. And dream big. Don't listen to any of the lies you will hear when you start pursuing your dreams. Just go for it.

2. Adapt and overcome

One of my high school English teachers always used to say "overcome adversity" anytime we had complaints about anything. That was some of the best advice I ever received and the constant repetition has made it stick in my head over the years. I accomplished things in that class I never thought I would like writing a book. Thanks Mrs. Smith for making AP English an actual AP English class.

Anytime you are faced with a challenge, don't complain about it. Don't gripe about it. Adapt to the new situation and find a way to overcome it to the best of your ability.

3. Live healthy

You only have one life, one body. Treat it right. Exercise. Eat healthy foods.

4. Less is more

You don't need to have everything. Declutter. Get rid of the stuff you don't need. Scale back. Before you buy something new determine if you need it or just want it. If you do buy something new get rid of anything it replaces. Donate it or have a garage sale!

5. Have a modifiable self concept

People are constantly growing and changing. It is important to know who you are and know what your beliefs are. However, you also need to take into account that you will change based on events in your life and knowledge that you gain. You change when you have kids. You change when a relationship ends. You change when you realize something important about the world. Having a modifiable self-concept will help you to roll with the punches a lot better.

6. Sometimes its OK to fake the funk

The first day I started teaching, i honestly had no idea what to do so I faked it. I put on my best teacher hat and just did it. After a few classes, I was more confident and didn't have to fake it anymore. In that case, faking it got me through. You may need to fake it for a family event. Pretend someone didn't hurt your feelings. Its ok to fake it until you can make it.

7. Love yourself

If you don't like yourself, how can you expect anyone else to?

8. It's never too late

Its not to late to change your mind. To change your attitude. To quit that bad habit. To start a good one. To say I'm sorry. To say I love you. To go back to school. To learn a new skill. To do anything at all.

9. Procrastination is bad – m'kay

Procrastination doesn't actually help. I used to think I'd do something later because I was exhausted. As it turns out, those things just pile up. If you do it now, it won't take long. The longer you put it off, the longer it will take to accomplish.

10. Don't be a victim

Be a survivor. Bad things happen. The second it is over, you are not a victim anymore. You are a survivor. Act like one. Don't dwell on the bad or on the the past. Focus your eyes forward and start moving.

11. Let go

After you move on, let go. Holding on to the past gives someone else control over you. Do you think they sit at home and think about you as much as you think about them? Put them out of your mind. Take your life back. It will save you lots of stress and all of the health problems that go with stress.

12. Trust yourself

You know more than you give yourself credit for. I promise.

13. Learn new skills

One of the best ways to stay young, to remain competitive in the job market, to be able to help your kids with homework, or just succeed in life is to never stop learning.

14. Have faith strong enough to be told no

This was a hard one to learn. There were a famous three that said go ahead and throw us into the fire. God will save us. But even if he doesn't, we still believe. The mortality rate of those who live on earth is 100%. Bad things are going to happen to everyone. Build a faith strong enough that you can handle it if God says no to your prayer.

15. Learn to entertain yourself

The words I'm bored make me cringe. I'm never bored. I always can find something to do. Get an e-reader and carry it with you. Get a hobby. Do something!

16. Change takes time

Don't be discouraged if you try something and don't see results right away. You didn't gain that weight all in a week. Its going to take more than a week to lose it. You didn't start thinking negatively one day because you decided to. It happened over time. It will take time to retrain yourself to think positively. Give yourself a break and keep at it.

17. Dream bigger

If your dreams don't scare you a little bit, you aren't dreaming big enough. They sky isn't the limit. Men have walked on the moon.

18. The world doesn't owe me anything

This world owes you nothing and you should expect that the world won't do you any favors. Do the right thing because its the right thing, not because you expect something in return.

19. Don't compromise

Be strong in your convictions. Keep an open mind. Be willing to hear the other side of an issue. Don't agree to do something just because you feel you should if you know you really shouldn't or can't or actually won't. Be who you are without apology.

20. Laugh

Often. A lot. Loudly. Be silly. Enjoy yourself! Don't take life so seriously. No one will get out alive anyway.

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April is National Poetry Month

by Lindsey on April 6, 2012

in Poetry

April is one of my favorite months for many reasons. My birthday is in April (tomorrow to be exact). The whole world starts to spell of spring.

And is National Poetry month!

You are probably a lot more familiar with poetry than you think. In my literature classes, I used to introduce my students to poetry with Elenor Rigby by the Beatles. Lyrics are poetry.

This month I want to challenge you to expand your reading and start to include some poetry. You don't need to analyze it, dig in deep, or even understand it all. Just enjoy it! You can read some of my poetry here. I'll also be sharing some of my favorite poems and poets this month with you like Adrienne Rich, Ai, and Deborah Garrison.

Today I leave you with one of my favorite poems. Ever.

Orpheus. Eurydice. Hermes.
by Rainer Maria RIlke

That was the deep uncanny mine of souls.
Like veins of silver ore, they silently
moved through its massive darkness. Blood welled up
among the roots, on its way to the world of men,
and in the dark it looked as hard as stone.
Nothing else was red.

There were cliffs there,
and forests made of mist. There were bridges
spanning the void, and that great gray blind lake
which hung above its distant bottom
like the sky on a rainy day above a landscape.
And through the gentle, unresisting meadows
one pale path unrolled like a strip of cotton.

Down this path they were coming.

In front, the slender man in the blue cloak —
mute, impatient, looking straight ahead.
In large, greedy, unchewed bites his walk
devoured the path; his hands hung at his sides,
tight and heavy, out of the failing folds,
no longer conscious of the delicate lyre
which had grown into his left arm, like a slip
of roses grafted onto an olive tree.
His senses felt as though they were split in two:
his sight would race ahead of him like a dog,
stop, come back, then rushing off again
would stand, impatient, at the path’s next turn, —
but his hearing, like an odor, stayed behind.
Sometimes it seemed to him as though it reached
back to the footsteps of those other two
who were to follow him, up the long path home.
But then, once more, it was just his own steps’ echo,
or the wind inside his cloak, that made the sound.
He said.to himself, they had to be behind him;
said it aloud and heard it fade away.
They had to be behind him, but their steps
were ominously soft. If only he could
turn around, just once (but looking back
would ruin this entire work, so near
completion), then he could not fail to see them,
those other two, who followed him so softly:

The god of speed and distant messages,
a traveler’s hood above his shining eyes,
his slender staff held out in front of him,
and little wings fluttering at his ankles;
and on his left arm, barely touching it: she.

A woman so loved that from one lyre there came
more lament than from all lamenting women;
that a whole world of lament arose, in which
all nature reappeared: forest and valley,
road and village, field and stream and animal;
and that around this lament-world, even as
around the other earth, a sun revolved
and a silent star-filled heaven, a lament-
heaven, with its own, disfigured stars —:
So greatly was she loved.

But now she walked beside the graceful god,
her steps constricted by the trailing graveclothes,
uncertain, gentle, and without impatience.
She was deep within herself, like a woman heavy
with child, and did not see the man in front
or the path ascending steeply into life.
Deep within herself. Being dead
filled her beyond fulfillment. Like a fruit
suffused with its own mystery and sweetness,
she was filled with her vast death, which was so new,
she could not understand that it had happened.

She had come into a new virginity
and was untouchable; her sex had closed
like a young flower at nightfall, and her hands
had grown so unused to marriage that the god’s
infinitely gentle touch of guidance
hurt her, like an undesired kiss.

She was no longer that woman with blue eyes
who once had echoed through the poet’s songs,
no longer the wide couch’s scent and island,
and that man’s property no longer.

She was already loosened like long hair,
poured out like fallen rain,
shared like a limitless supply.

She was already root.

And when, abruptly,
the god put out his hand to stop her, saying,
with sorrow in his voice: He has turned around —,
she could not understand, and softly answered
Who?

                                             Far away,
dark before the shining exit-gates,
someone or other stood, whose features were
unrecognizable. He stood and saw
how, on the strip of road among the meadows,
with a mournful look, the god of messages
silently turned to follow the small figure
already walking back along the path,
her steps constricted by the trailing graveclothes,
uncertain, gentle, and without impatience.

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simple secrets to a happy life by Luci Swindoll is a simple, straightforward list of 50 ways to make the most of every day, all with a biblical basis.

She starts with some basics like organizing your stuff and keeping your word. She also gives nine tips for achieving balance in your life.

What I loved about this book is that all 50 suggestions are phrased in simple, five word actions. Read Your Bible Every Day. Fight Resentment Before it Festers. Trust Friends for the Truth.

What I loved about this book is it was a quick read, but is easy to reference. The table of contents is divided to into five sections and fifty chapters. It is easy to flip to a specific section and reread the tip you need a refresher course on.  Each chapter is short and sweet to help you start your day on the right foot or improve your mood during the day.

Most of the concepts are not new. In fact, many of them are common sense. This wasn't a life altering book, but we all sometimes need reminders to follow these basic principles.

*Booksneeze provided a review copy of this book. No other payment was received for this review. All opinions expressed are my own.

What would your suggestions be for living a happy life?

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Cherokee Nation Entertainment Executive Chef Don McClellan offers his recipe for mushroom crusted lamb chops with a port wine demi to serve for Easter dinner.

Ingredients
• Oil                            As needed
• Lamb chops              2 ea.
• Salt                           To taste
• Pepper                      To taste
• Dried mushrooms      3 oz.

Sauce:
• Oil                            1 tsp.
• Shallots, minced        2 ea.
• Port wine                  4 oz.
• Demi glace                6 oz.

Suggested Sides:
• Mashed Potatoes
• Lentils
• Au gratin potatoes
• Rice pilaf
• Risotto
• Asparagus
• Swiss Chard
• Glazed carrots

Method

Sauce:
1. Place oil and minced shallots into sauce pot and cook until they become translucent. (Approx. 2-3 minutes)

2.  Pour in Port wine and allow mixture to simmer and reduce by ½.  Add Demi glace and simmer for 5 minutes.  Keep sauce warm for finished lamb.

Lamb:
(Pre-Heat Oven to 400 degrees)

1. Puree dried mushrooms in blender or food processor.  Place fine mesh wire strainer on separate plate.  Shake dried mushrooms through fine mesh wire strainer, collect mushroom dust on plate.

2. Season lamb chops with salt and pepper.  Roll lamb chops in mushroom dust.  Make sure all surfaces are evenly dusted.
 

3. Heat large sauté pan, add enough oil to coat the bottom of the pan.  Place lamb chops into pan and sear on all sides.  Once lamb has been seared place in oven using an oven proof pan and finish cooking to desired temperature.
 

4. Medium rare lamb should take approximately 8-10 minutes to in a 400 degree oven.  Adjust cooking times up or down for desired doneness.
 

5. Remove lamb from oven and allow lamb to rest on a cutting board. (approx. 3-4 minutes)  Once lamb has rested it is ready to be plated and topped with the Port wine Demi glace.

Cherokee Nation Entertainment is the wholly owned gaming, hospitality, retail and tourism entity of the Cherokee Nation. The company operates Hard Rock Hotel & Casino Tulsa, seven Cherokee Casinos, including a horse racing track, four hotels, two golf courses and other retail operations. CNE employs more than 3,600 people in northeast Oklahoma and northwest Arkansas.

Don McClellan, is an executive chef for Cherokee Nation Entertainment.   McClellan began his career as a chef on a cruise ship and has racked up more than a decade as a chef at restaurants and hotels in Washington D.C., New York, California, Louisiana and Arizona.  He is a graduate of Northern Arizona University and The Culinary Institute of America.

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Living Healthier

by Lindsey on April 2, 2012

in Health and Fitness

I'm determined to get serious about my health. Not just getting in shape, but my overall health. From now on Monday's will be [mostly] dedicated to health and fitness.

You might want to start with Boosting Your Energy and Spring Cleaning Your Life to be on the right track towards overall health.

I intended to start a daily workout program several weeks ago and I have to admit I stuck with it for exactly one day.

Today I downloaded the My Livestrong app (the lite version is free) so I can track my calories, water, weight, and exercise. Hopefully this will help me find opportunities I'm missing to live healthier.

I've been scouring the internet looking for an exercise plan to slide into my life.

Leave a comment and share your favorite workout routines, healthy recipes, or anything else you can think of that will motivate us to be healthy!

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Adrienne Rich died today at the age of 82.

I'm sad that one of the women I really look up to in this world has died. I am even more sad that there is one less poet in this world. One less person to look at the world and write beautiful explanations of life. There are so few poets left and even fewer people who read poetry.

I am at a loss for words. Ai, now Adrienne Rich. My heros are slowly leaving this earth. I am at a loss for words so I will leave you with Rich's instead.

Diving Into the Wreck

First having read the book of myths,
and loaded the camera,
and checked the edge of the knife-blade,
I put on
the body-armor of black rubber
the absurd flippers
the grave and awkward mask.
I am having to do this
not like Cousteau with his
assiduous team
aboard the sun-flooded schooner
but here alone.

There is a ladder.
The ladder is always there
hanging innocently
close to the side of the schooner.
We know what it is for,
we who have used it.
Otherwise
it is a piece of maritime floss
some sundry equipment.

I go down.
Rung after rung and still
the oxygen immerses me
the blue light
the clear atoms
of our human air.
I go down.
My flippers cripple me,
I crawl like an insect down the ladder
and there is no one
to tell me when the ocean
will begin.

First the air is blue and then
it is bluer and then green and then
black I am blacking out and yet
my mask is powerful
it pumps my blood with power
the sea is another story
the sea is not a question of power
I have to learn alone
to turn my body without force
in the deep element.

And now: it is easy to forget
what I came for
among so many who have always
lived here
swaying their crenellated fans
between the reefs
and besides
you breathe differently down here.

I came to explore the wreck.
The words are purposes.
The words are maps.
I came to see the damage that was done
and the treasures that prevail.
I stroke the beam of my lamp
slowly along the flank
of something more permanent
than fish or weed

the thing I came for:
the wreck and not the story of the wreck
the thing itself and not the myth
the drowned face always staring
toward the sun
the evidence of damage
worn by salt and sway into this threadbare beauty
the ribs of the disaster
curving their assertion
among the tentative haunters.

This is the place.
And I am here, the mermaid whose dark hair
streams black, the merman in his armored body.
We circle silently
about the wreck
we dive into the hold.
I am she: I am he

whose drowned face sleeps with open eyes
whose breasts still bear the stress
whose silver, copper, vermeil cargo lies
obscurely inside barrels
half-wedged and left to rot
we are the half-destroyed instruments
that once held to a course
the water-eaten log
the fouled compass

We are, I am, you are
by cowardice or courage
the one who find our way
back to this scene
carrying a knife, a camera
a book of myths
in which
our names do not appear.

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Working Has Made Me a Better Mom

by Lindsey on March 28, 2012

in Just Sayin'

A little over a year ago I took the leap and went back into the workforce.

For seven years prior to that I was an English Professor. I spent the last 3 years teaching online only so I worked at home. Now I work outside the home and I LOVE my job.

I was worried about the effect it would have on my kids though. Big Brother was halfway through kindergarden and Little Brother had always been at home with me.

What I found is that my kids like school, most of the time. They like playing with friends and the playground.

I also discovered that working full time made me a better mom.

I am less inclined to tell my kids that I can do something in "just a minute" and not really mean it. If I say just a minute now, I really mean just a minute. I get precious little time with them during the week so if they want me to do something I want to do it.

They are tired so they go to bed on time for the first time in their short lives. This means I get to go to bed at a more decent hour, which makes me less tired, which makes me less grouchy.

We eat healthier. Always being on the go and having activities after school each day makes me think much more carefully about what we are eating and the effects what we eat has on our energy level. Caffine and sugar crashes make for an ugly evening.

I talk to my kids more. Part of that is because they are older but most of it is because I am not a participant in every aspect of their lives. I have to ask if I want to know what they did that day.

I happier and more confident with life and am able to pass that attitude to my kids. Having adult conversations, being more than a mom is important to me. I know for some people the opposite is true. I want to have success and worth beyond that of being a mom though. My job provides that. It also provides ample time for adult conversation.

I know that being a full time working mom isn't the most popular choice. I made the choice out of necessity. However, I am happy with the arrangement.

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People do stupid stuff to their kids all the time. They same then Pilot Inspektor (Jason Lee) and forget them at Chuck E. Cheese.

Alicia Silverstone posted on her blog, TheKindLife.com, a video where she is feeding her son from her mouth.

You heard me right. She chewed his food for him and then spit it into his mouth. Like a penguin.

I am grossed out. Or creeped out. Talk about Mommy Dearest.

What do you think?

 

 

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